Barbara's
Eulogy 10/07/04:
"We met when I was only 15 and Carl 17. From the first time our eyes met we
knew we were to be soul mates for life. As soon as I graduated high school
we were married. Everyone said it wouldn’t last; we were too young. It took
death to separate a love that lasted 3 years of dating and 39 years of
marriage. We had our ups and downs, but the ups far outweighed the downs.
Our honeymoon was cut short as he got his “Greetings” from Uncle Sam. We
were fortunate that during the terrible war of Vietnam, he was stationed
stateside and I was able to join him.
We were like we were
connected at the hip. Wherever Carl was, Barbara was right there, too. We
loved being together. This is why we enjoyed sharing hobbies, just so we
could be together.
We bought our first
motorcycle when we were stationed in Virginia in 1966: a Honda 305 Dream. We
enjoyed that bike until it was stolen 6 months later. How could we know how
this Honda motorcycle would be such an influence in our lives so many years
later?
Carl liked hunting.
I didn’t, so we compromised. He bought me a rifle and handgun and taught me
to shoot. We both enjoyed clay target shooting. We have had many boats in
our lives as we enjoyed this sport along with water skiing. Then the Chow
dog came into our lives with the first home. As I enjoyed obedience training
and showing of our wonderful dogs, Carl joined in. The dog shows took us all
across the US and Canada. This got us involved with motor homing. What an
incredible journey we had seen seeing this beautiful country of ours!
There were several
motorcycles in our lives, but this hobby fell to the wayside when boating
re-entered. Then in 1998 Carl was diagnosed with prostate cancer. The Surgeon
said that they had gotten it all. We were so joyous! How were we to know
that one year later, I would be diagnosed with breast cancer and Carl’s
prostate cancer would return? His plant was closing and he was getting an
early retirement in October 2000.
In September of 2000
we met a wonderful group of motorcyclists at Middletown Day. Carl wanted to
get a Harley upon retirement, but after seeing the Gold Wing, we were
hooked. We bought our first Gold Wing and joined F-Troop and found an
extended family. We began an adventure of traveling with this extended
family to motorcycle rallies throughout many states.
Carl’s cancer began
to advance and treatments were running out. He never once complained about all the
let downs, the pain. He considered each day a gift. To cope with all the
experimental drug therapy, he changed his CB handle to “LABRAT.” He always
had a smile on his face and everyone saw the joy on his face when he rode
his Gold Wing. Our families helped us through trying times. Our extended
F-troop family was there to help us fulfill a promise we made to each other:
To live our lives to the very end and not wait around to die. Many special
friendships and bonds were formed with those friends and family who assisted
Carl to treatment and the medical staff that administered treatment. He
touched their lives in a very special way and they will greatly miss him.
Carl was incredible.
He was strong and tender all rolled into one. He had such a love of life.
Though I mourn his passing, I celebrate our life together. It was the most
incredible journey I could ever have had. My heart is broken, but life will
go on. It will never be the same, but his strength will get me through. I
ask all of you not to mourn, but to help me celebrate his life. Someday we
will be reunited."